5 Things People Don’t Tell You About Your 20’s

“I think your 20s are the hardest part of life. I mean, everyone goes on about how hard it is to be a teenager, but actually I think it’s tougher to be in your 20s because you’re expected to be a grownup and expected to earn your own living and be successful and I think you feel like a kid still.” Nigel Cole


When you’re in your 20’s there are many things that may come as a surprise to you.  It is one of the most important times in your life.  It’s a time where you are finally out there in the world by yourself.  You no longer have others to fall back on if you come into a difficult period (for the most part).

So here are 5 things that people don’t tell you about your 20’s.

  1. You will be Poor

Getting your dream job with a good pay fresh out of college doesn’t mean that you’re going to be rolling around in dough like you imagined you would.  Living expenses are just that, EXPENSIVE!  When you combine rent, groceries, cell phone bill, insurance, debt (if you have any), and other various things, it eats up a lot of your income.  Buying your necessities is going to be frustrating but just know, everyone buys them.  Long story short, things will be much different than you imagined, so keep your head up.

  1. Your Friend Circle Will Change

The people you spend your time with in your 20’s will likely be the most influential people you can meet.  You’ll be very easily influenced, and the people you chose to hang out with will be the influencers.  So you’ll want to surround yourself with people that have high ambitions, people with similar goals, and people that want to see you succeed.  There will be people you need to cut out of your life, and it will likely hurt.  But by doing this, you are putting yourself on the path to being the best you that you can be.


  1. Your Priorities Will Change

At some point in your 20’s, you may come to the realization that your responsibilities will take precedence over having fun sometimes.  You may make the decision to stay home on a Friday night and read a book for fun instead of going out to drink.  And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.  It shows that your maturing and actually give a sh** about your future.  Trust me, it’s a good thing.

  1. You Will Be Confused

During your 20’s, you will often find yourself in a confused state of mind. One day you’ll think you have your whole life together and everything is in order, then the next day you’ll think the complete opposite.  You got your first real job with the expectations that you’re fully prepared to take on the world.  Only to realize that what you studied in college or high school has almost nothing to do with that job.  You’ll still have a whole lot to learn, but don’t feel overwhelmed we all do.

  1. Healthy Living will Be More Important than Ever

As you make it through your 20’s, your metabolism will slow down, your body will take more time to recover, your joints and muscles will slowly start to ache, and your skin will show minor signs of aging. Exercise will become a necessity, and you need to be more cognizant of what you’re fueling your body with.  If you eat too much junk food and don’t exercise, it will begin to show physically, as well as, affect you internally.  Nevertheless, making small changes to your diet and regularly exercising can mitigate many of these negative effects. Luckily, there are books, videos, and people with the information you need to take action.


The moral of the story is that your 20’s will change you.  It will play a vital role in defining who you will be in your life.  It will be rocky, and you will doubt yourself often.  The good news is that you are in control of the outcome of your 20’s.  So pay attention and actually give a sh**.


James A. Lovejoy

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6 thoughts on “5 Things People Don’t Tell You About Your 20’s

  1. Well, I’m going to have to disagree with you about you statement…”things they don’t tell you about your 20s”. I know I’ve had numerous conversations with my children and young airman about all of these things….. the problem is not being told rather than being mature enough to listen to the advice. Listening is one of the few tools that change over time. It takes practice to hear and to listen to advice, critisim and guidance. But I’m very proud of you for putting your thoughts out there for the world to hear!

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    1. I do agree that it takes practice being mature enough to listen to the advise. If it wasn’t for the insight that others offered me at a younger age, I wouldn’t be where I am! Your a very knowledgeable woman with invaluable experience and a great mom. Matt loves hearing from you, as do I!


    1. I love my old friends they are who I was earlier. They bring me a feeling of nostalgia. I would still do anything to help them. However, as life moves on and gets busier I find that they, as well as, myself have less free time as we change paths. We dont spend much time together but its happened slowly. As far as my priorities changing. I actually love that they changed. I enjoy the process if change and you should too! I found that as I’ve gotten older I learned to love learning. I am currently nearing the end of my degree and I read recreationally all the time. You should find something you enjoy then find a good book on it. If you are open to suggestions I would suggest reading “How to win friends, and influence people” by Dale Carnegie. Its a simple read yet it offers value to anyone. I know I have already read it twice.

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  2. This is so accurate for me! 20’s are really hard. I just published an article about if we really have to it all figured out in our 20’s. It’s great to know that so many other people have the same view as me! So I loved this article! Thanks for sharing x

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